Dating and communication problems
More and more people are living, working and studying abroad.
One of the byproducts of this trend is that there are more and more intercultural relationships that are developing into intercultural marriages; along the way is a long process of dating that has even more ups and downs than the average dating process.
Even for people like me who the whole dance and the chase and the thrill of the new, there will be points when you really just want to take a step back from it for a while and catch your breath and let your ego recover from the beatings that tend to come with it. But just as when you’re trying to meet your future snugglebunny the old-fashioned way, it’s important to understand the potential headaches that come with those marathon OKCupid sessions.
Many of the things that drive people away from online dating can be headed off at the pass with some preparation.
Women weigh income more than physical characteristics, and men sought physical attractiveness and offered status-related information more than women. The service users preferred similarity on a variety of (mainly demographic) categories (including child preferences, education, and physical features like height, age, race, religion, political views, and smoking).
It is accurate to say that the research findings showed some behavior and attitudes of the online daters who joined the internet community with different motivations, expectations and backgrounds, but it is inaccurate to assume the behavior and attitudes reflect real interpersonal attractions.
WHAT HE SAYS: "It's not a big deal."WHAT YOU HEAR: "How trivial."WHAT HE MEANS: "Let's not dwell on it." Men come from the school of suck-it-up, while women tend to need more reassurance if something is bothering them.
Guys, on the other hand, have much more of a flight instinct when it comes to confrontation--especially if he doesn't fully understand why you're so upset. Yeah."WHAT YOU HEAR: "I couldn't be less interested in what you're saying."WHAT HE MEANS: "I want to hear your story, but it's been 10 minutes and still no punch line." Men don't process information in the lengthy, big-picture way that women do (fact: Women use three times more words a day than men), so telling him a story in the drawn-out way you would to one of your girlfriends isn't going to work.This type of artificial "contact" contradicts the process of meaningful interpersonal interactions (to be explained), which generates love and attraction.To explain the problem, I need to first elucidate the ingredients for love and the meaningful interactions.To start with, you have to rethink the way that you present yourself.Studies show that between 75% to 93% of communication is non-verbal.